Transforming Sexual Energy
by Mantak Chia
To be a Taoist is to experience life as a
harmonious flow of life energy. In the traditional Taoist terms, this flow in humans is
from "chi", to "ching", to "shien" -- from breath to sex
essence to spirit. It flows both visibly and invisibly, in a never-ending cycle, as it
circulates within you, between you and the world, and between Heaven and Earth with man in
the middle. It is the blood that flows between heart and kidney, the love (and hate) that
passes between man and woman, the storms and sunshine that circulates between sky and
earth.
Sexual Polarity
Many people drown in this flow of life;
they are simply overwhelmed by it. Some can't "get" enough flow and feel cheated
or bitter. Others drift aimlessly without purpose, alienated and unaware there is a flow.
Regardless of your attitude toward life, nearly everyone seeks, at some point, to anchor
themselves in a love relationship. Such is the power of the flow of ching chi, of
sexual essence between man and woman. This much is obvious. What is also obvious, but is
almost always overlooked, is the polarity between male and female, and the subtle flow
between their two magnetic poles.
This polar exchange is overlooked because
the flow is invisible to the physical eye, and because its workings are often too subtle
for the uncultivated mind to perceive. That is why Taoists study the workings of chi,
ching chi, and shien. These energies, also called the three treasures of life, are the
subtle language of life and to speak them properly takes years of practice and refinement.
At first, it may seem like learning a foreign language. But after a few lessons you
quickly realize you were born speaking this language and merely forgot the subtle grammar
of chi energy while being intensively schooled by parents and teachers in more mental
subjects.
This flow of energy between opposite
poles of male and female is the key to harmonizing the flow of energy in one's life. It is
the simplest and most basic secret, not only of the Taoist masters but of every esoteric
tradition. It is the key to mastering the Taoist secrets of love. It's simple because it's
based on the natural law of the universe -- that positive and negative forces attract
and bond with each other. The Taoists called this polarity yin and yang, terms that have
become popular today in the field of holistic health, but are not well understood in terms
of their functioning in sexuality.
One way the Taoists describe it is with
the simple metaphor of cooking. Yang is fire, and yin is water. Man is the fire and woman
is the water. When man makes love with a woman, he cooks the woman's water (in her womb)
with his fire (penis). The woman is most always sexually stronger, for her water puts out
the male fire; his erection loses its flame. Yin, the soft and yielding, always conquers
yang, the hard. In the same way water (rivers are "yin" or female) triumphs over
solid rock. Thus, a stream slowly wears away a giant mountain and carves the Grand Canyon
a mile deep.
Yin and Yang: Battle of the Sexes
This battle between yin and yang is
seemingly endless, just like the never ending battle between the sexes. In fact, the
Taoist sages also used the metaphor of combat to elucidate the act of sexual love. For
some men love is a passionate struggle for domination and surrender; to the Taoists it was
more a lawful play of opposites. Ideally you enter the battle of the sexes with a spirit
of gamesmanship. You approach not with the intention of defeating your lover, but in the
hope of matching her grace and receptive energy with the exact complementary male skill
and force.
Unfortunately, few men today seem to
proceed with such tact in lovemaking; as a result, most are beaten soundly within minutes
by the woman. This failure is due to tactical ignorance of both the male sex organs and
the nature of sexual energy. Misunderstanding of love's strategic laws is so widespread
that a myth has developed that the average man cannot fully satisfy a passionate woman.
In fact, the average man can unfailingly
satisfy his mate when he learns to discipline his forces. Untutored, man's nature is to
attack; he possesses the offensive weapon. Woman's is to defend, she protects without
exhausting herself. When man assaults furiously and discharges the sperm, he crumbles.
Yet, the woman may remain most eager to continue, even if she kindly denies it and thus
"spares" her opponent.
To pursue the martial metaphor of the
Chinese.... The woman's shield and short sword is her vagina and clitoris. Man is armed
with a long spear alone, his penis. If man attacks too violently with his love weapon,
woman easily fends off his thrusts and does him in when he exhausts his seed. But if man
remains beyond woman's striking range, she drops the shield from fatigue. The contest will
be over before man has lost his vehicle of higher vitality.
The point is this: Man must stop throwing
away his sexual energies. When he stops the sperm loss, woman is no longer in a position
of superiority. She meets her match and no longer suffers disappointment. Man doesn't
exhaust himself and retreat in humiliation, yet feels he has met a good match. Woman
reaches the limits of her erotic capacities and is ready to make real peace with her
opponent.
The battle between man and woman is over
when both recognize that neither can "win" by either dominating or submitting.
At that moment, both become free to surrender to each other and exchange their deepest
love. Their vulnerabilities have been matched and their fear of losing is neutralized.
Reaching Higher Orgasm
But how to reach that point of
tenderness, where both lovers joyously yield and receive life from one another? The single
most important point to remember about polarity is that yin and yang energies are not
separate energies: they are one and the same energy, but with two different charges. They
never exist apart from one another, but are always in fluid motion, like a pendulum
swinging back and forth passing from hot to cold and gradually moving to stillness at the
perfect moderate temperature. Another metaphor is to see man and women as two sides of the
same coin. During love, the coin spins rapidly, fusing the two sides into one.
That is how man and woman can become
"one": they simply realize the flow of sexual energy between them is continuous
and belongs to them both. Each lover is at opposite ends of the polar flow. When the
exchange of ching chi reaches a certain intensity and balance, the solid bodies of the two
lovers begin pulsating as if charged with electricity. The feeling of having solid flesh
disappears. You are suddenly a pillar of vibrating energy held in exquisite balance by
your lover's field of energy. This is a total orgasm of body and soul. The flow of sex
energy alone cannot complete this circle; love must be present. The mind must participate
in sex with a totally attentive feeling. This circle of energy cannot connect if a man
only joins his penis with a woman's vagina without loving her with his heart. A true
orgasm occurs when both man and woman continue to pulsate together. Their sexual energy
completes a full circuit between their two magnetic poles, charging each of them more
fully than before. This circle is the Tan, the black and white teardrop symbols of yin and
rang flowing into each other in perfect circular harmony.
Points To Remember
The ejaculatory orgasm to which most men
are so deeply attached restricts their life force to the genitals. During sex, the penis
literally bursts with life, as it is too small to contain the expanding sexual force. The
penis was not designed to hold your life-force any more than it was designed to be your
brain and central nervous system. The real function of your penis is to conduct life into
and out of the body. The sex organs are only doors through which life enters and issues
forth.
Why Use Taoist Sex Practices?
You are right to ask why bother learning
these seemingly complicated and time-consuming Taoists exercises and methods of sex energy
transformation. Why not just love your woman the way you know now, and let nature take its
own course? Why meddle with the one pleasure that above all others should be free of
schooling?
The simplest answer is that Taoists are
trying to help nature take its course within humans, not to alter its basic processes. The
radiant and loving couple you know could be doubly radiant and live 10 or 20 years longer
in good health to enjoy their love if they conserved their ching chi and practiced the
transformation of the sex energy. Perhaps their radiant happiness is more dependent on
external circumstances than you are aware -- a good job, preoccupation with children,
etc. Will they appear radiant in old age? Is it progressing to more subtle levels?
The Taoist love techniques serve to speed
up, intensify and stabilize your natural evolution. There is no limit to the scale of good
health and profoundity of love possible. At the higher levels there are always new
spiritual challenges to be met. The balance of polarity moves beyond the poles of man and
woman and you become aware of the play of opposites between Heaven and Earth.
The Taoists know this high level of
harmony is a tangible experience that can be permanently known to man -- they call it
Immortality. They prepare for it by conserving their sex energy and harmonizing their
spirit with their lover. In this way lovemaking becomes, in western terms, a way to draw
nearer to God. It can become the worship of divinity in the temple of your lover's body
and soul.
The
above article was excerpted from:
 Taoist Secrets of Love -- Cultivating
Male Sexual Energy
by Mantak Chia
& Michael Winn.
Reprinted with permission of the publisher, Aurora Press,
P.O. Box 573, Santa Fe, New Mexico, 87504. ©1984.
Info/Order book.
About The
Author
Master Mantak Chia has studied with Taoist and
Buddhist masters. He is the author of numerous books . Master Chia may be reached at: The
Healing Tao Center, P.O. Box 1194, Huntington, NY 11743. Visit his website
at
www.mantak-chia-universal-tao.com.
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