Sensual
Ceremonies
by Kenneth Ray Stubbs
sex1 A sensual ceremony is a special gift. It
is a physical sharing warmth and caring, an expression of tenderness. Giving this gift of
pleasure, we invite another to be guided into the inner garden. Here, in the quiet of
sanctuary, we nourish each sense. When each sense is nurtured in gentleness, the heart is
touched and we experience joy. This is the underlying philosophy. Here are a few ideas to
help you raise the level of sensuousness in your sex life.
Sensual Feeding CeremonyA feeding ceremony can be in combination
with a bath, as in a Secret Garden Ceremony, or it can be a ceremony in itself. Here are
some guidelines common to both situations.
(Editor's Note.- Further in-depth information on the preparation and arrangements
are detailed in Kenneth's book "SensualCeremonies") While you are
making the final touches, the recipient can be relaxing, listening to quiet music. Or she
could be by the fireplace, sipping hot tea. Hearing the nearby sounds of food preparation
may build suspense if she cannot see the activity.
Soften the lights, if possible. Unplug
the telephone and eliminate other possible interruptions. Do not burn incense too soon
before the actual feeding. Present the food platter for a visual feast. Let it say, This
is just for you. Then ask if there is anything there that she wishes not to eat. After
setting the platter down, ask if she would like to be surprised or to request something
special. If 'to be surprised" is the response, invite her to close her eyes. If the
mood shifts to requesting, flow with it.
Focusing on the Sensual Sensations
When feeding slowly, place the
selection
just in front of her lips so that she can smell the aromas. If she is not aware of the
presence, very lightly touch the food to her lips. This feeding is not intended to be a
guessing game. Now is time for her to be have direct experience of taste and smell, rather
than discussing the topic. Gently encourage focusing on the sensations. Feed with your
fingers, an inch above her tongue, squeeze grapes, strawberries, or watermelon and let the
sweet juices drop drip by drip. When serving, vary the flavors and textures.. explore
combinations. Feed slowly. Wait until she has thoroughly savored the previous serving.
If you should wish to taste too... first
ask permission to serve yourself Should she want to feed you, remind her that this is a
time for her to be served. She can give that as a gift another time. Exceptions are always
negotiable. At some point, let her know that she is to indicate when she is satiated.
 Recommended
book:
"Erotic Massage : The Tantric Touch of Love
" by Kenneth Ray Stubbs (publ.
1999)
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About
The Author
Kenneth Ray Stubbs is a
certified massage therapist and a certified
sexologist. He has been greatly influenced by Tibetan Buddhism,
Taoist
philosophy and Native American teachings. The underlying theme in ail Ray's work
holds that sensuality and sexuality are integral to spiritual liberation. The above
was excerpted with permission from his book, "Sensual
Ceremony"
?1992,
published by Secret Garden, 1321 Yukon Way, Suite 20, Novato, CA
94947.
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