Angel
Therapy
for Unhappy Marriages
by
Doreen Virtue, Ph.D.
It
is rare that just one partner in a relationship is
unhappy. When one partner suffers, the other one usually
is affected as well. Yet, unless the partners compare
notes and seek solutions, they may each feel alone in
their unhappiness.
Sometimes,
marital conflict comes from feeling that "you can't
live with your partner, and you also can't live without
your partner". In other words, you really desire
the partnership to stay intact, but not in its current
state of disrepair. This can lead to the pain of feeling
trapped in an unhappy relationship, where you don't want
to leave, but you don't want to stay either.
My
client, Becky, came to me for angelic advice when her
marriage began to flounder on rocky shores. She worried
that she and her husband had suffered too much pain to
salvage their once-happy 12-year relationship.
Becky,
a pretty 45-year-old business owner, said, "We've
had many problems in my marriage. Both my husband,
Brian, and I had previous marriages." Becky
explained that they initially had custody of all the
children from both of their previous marriages. After
Brian and Becky married, they had two more children
together. Everything seemed ideal until they began
having problems with Brian's ex-wife, Ally.
Becky
explained, "Ally was very jealous during the time
the boys were living with us (even though she chose to
leave them) and made our lives very miserable with her
constant intentional disruption and lies".
Becky
closed her eyes, jaw, and her fists tightly with anger
and continued, "My husband feared standing up to
her because she twisted everything to the boys for pity.
I became very resentful of her and my husband. His boys
are all gone now, but the pain is not. My husband and I
have also had many problems in our personal relationship.
One issue in particular has become a very uncomfortable
situation and has caused me a lot of pain which I cannot
seem to forgive him for.
"I
guess I am looking for some guidance on the correct path
to take. I have considered divorce, but am still
uncertain about that. I am not sure if my love for him
is gone or has just been blocked with all the pain I am
suffering. Maybe if I could forgive him I would find
peace and once again be able to love him."
As
she talked, I smiled to myself. It was wonderful to hear
Becky use the word "forgiveness" since that is
such a key healing point emphasized by the angels. Many
times, the angels ask me to teach the true meaning of
forgiveness to those who hear the word as an oppressive,
religious, or cowardice term. To the angels, forgiving
means "releasing the pain associated with an event.
You don't need to forgive the action, just the person.
Your reason for forgiving is to heal yourself, not
because it is something that you are expected to
do."
I
relayed the angels' message to Becky, "You are most
certainly receiving guidance accurately from your
angels. In fact, you have very loud angels and it is a
joy to work with them, because they are so clear!"
Becky
beamed with joy at the realization that she wasn't
alone.
"Yes,
forgiveness is the key for you here," the angels
continued. "You don't need to forgive Brian's
actions, just him as a person. He is in a strange
situation right now, because he sees you as being
unhappy and it makes him feel bad about himself (even
though he is not responsible for your feelings, he takes
responsibility for them)."
The
three angels circling Becky's heads, her guardian
angels, then slowed their movements as a way of showing
me the relationship's passion was low, and getting
progressively lower steadily. I heard the largest male
angel say in my right ear, "It won't last this
way".
The
angels then clearly told me they preferred the marriage
to last, for a number of reasons: one, love still
existed between Brian and Becky; two, a divorce would
disrupt both partners from their life's purpose and
spiritual path; and three, the children would suffer
emotional pain that would profoundly and negatively
affect them in adulthood. Still, the angels shrugged
their shoulders and said, "We can't force them to
stay together, nor would we want to exercise our will
over theirs, but would you at least help them to
try?"
I
looked solemnly at Becky to emphasize the urgency of her
angels' message: "Unless you pull yourself out of
your low-energy cycle, your husband won't pull himself
up either. So, you really need to "go first"
in taking steps to make yourself happy."
The
three angels then gave their prescriptions for Becky to
increase her energy, and therefore be more present in
the relationship: "We want to see you incorporate
meditation into your daily schedule", they said.
"We realize you are busy with many responsibilities
tugging at you each day. However, we remind you that you
have asked for our help and that this suggestion is an
answer to your prayer. You'll also need to look after
yourself in ways that ease your stress level. Exercise,
pedicures, hot tub soaks, interesting classes, and such.
"If
you'll give us your permission, we will help you to
forgive him and his ex-wife. We can help you want to
forgive them, and this is what you should ask us
for."
Becky agreed to
incorporate the angels' prescriptions to save her
marriage. She realized that her energy and commitment
toward the marriage had sagged in recent years. "I
want to care about my husband and marriage," she
told me, "and I realize that I'll need the help of
God, Jesus, and the angels to let go of all this baggage
we've been carrying around; baggage that has probably
made us feel very, very tired of everything, including
each other!"
 This
article was excerpted from:
Healing with the Angels
by
Doreen Virtue, Ph.D.
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About The
Author
Doreen
Virtue, Ph.D. is a clairvoyant psychotherapist who works with the
angelic realm. She is the author of "Divine Guidance",
"Angel Therapy", and the new oracle card deck, "Healing
with the Angels Cards". To receive her workshop schedule
or order her books, tapes, or cards, please call 1-800-654-5126, ext. 0
or visit http://www.AngelTherapy.com.
This article is excerpted from her latest book, "Healing with
the Angels" published by Hay House www.hayhouse.com
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