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Honoring Yourself
by
Brian
Klemmer
 Honor is really about respect. The word respect is commonly used as it relates to respecting others. For
example, "Respect your elders. Honor your mother and your father. Give honor to
whom honor is due."
All of these phrases are familiar. But how about this one:
"Honor yourself." Does that feel right to you? If it doesn't, it's only because
you haven't heard it enough to form a habit in your mind and actions.
You may be surprised by just how many people don't have a
healthy respect for themselves. When people don't respect themselves, it always
shows. It's impossible to hide.
One way to determine if people have a healthy
respect for themselves is to watch how they keep their word to themselves. If
you can't commit to do for you what
you say you're going to do, then you really don't honor yourself. There are
people who give to others but never give to themselves. That is not honoring.
Some people make time for their spouses, their children, their
work, their church, and their friends, but they feel guilty about taking time
for themselves. They are not honoring themselves. They deserve to treat
themselves well.
Compassionate samurai will honor themselves, whether it's by
having a massage, spending time in the hot tub, or reading. Those behaviors
aren't selfish unless it's carried to the extreme of not having time for
others.
If you don't take care of yourself, you'll eventually become a martyr
and not be of much use for anyone else. Service is a bottomless pit. You always
want to contribute, but don't fall into the trap of thinking that you can
finish or complete your duty.
Do you exercise and eat right? That is a self-honoring
practice. What do you say to yourself when you make a mistake? Do you honor
yourself by saying that it was a good effort and look for the lesson you
learned? Do you dishonor yourself by berating yourself or calling yourself
stupid?
Samurai honored themselves highly. That is the main reason they felt so
compelled to honor other people they came into contact with, even their
enemies. How a samurai treated himself was an indication of his overall image.
It is that kind of image that others
see in you, and that image you can give to others. How you treat yourself is a
direct reflection of how you'll treat others.
This article was excerpted from:
 THE COMPASSIONATE SAMURAI: Being
Extraordinary in an Ordinary World
by Brian Klemmer.
Reprinted with permission of the publisher, Hay House Inc. ©2008. www.hayhouse.com
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About the Author
Brian Klemmer is the author of the best-selling books If How-To's Were Enough, We Would All Be Skinny, Rich, & Happy;
When Good Intentions Run Smack into Reality; and Eating the Elephant One Bite at a Time. Known for his humorous and
practical style of communicating, Brian is one of today's most in-demand
speakers. His character development and leadership seminar company,
Klemmer & Associates Leadership Seminars, Inc., has conducted its work for
more than 100,000 people around the world. Klemmer
and Associates seminars measure and produce long lasting changes in people; and
you can find out more about them by visiting them online at www.klemmer.com or by calling (800)
577-5447.
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