Choosing Forgiveness
by Louise L. Hay
You can never be free of bitterness as long as you continue to think
unforgiving thoughts. How can you be happy in this moment if you
continue to choose to be angry and resentful? Thoughts of bitterness
can't create joy. No matter how justified you feel you are, no matter
what "they" did, if you insist on holding on to the past, then you will
never be free. Forgiving yourself and others will release you from the
prison of the past.
When you feel that you're stuck in some situation, or when your
affirmations aren't working, it usually means that there's more
forgiveness work to be done. When you don't flow freely with life in
the present moment, it usually means that you're holding on to a past
moment. It can be regret, sadness, hurt, fear, guilt, blame, anger,
resentment, or sometimes even a desire for revenge. Each one of these
states comes from a space of unforgiveness, a refusal to let go and
come in to the present moment. Only in the present moment can you
create your future.
If you're holding on to the past, you can't be in the present. It's
only in this "now" moment that your thoughts and words are powerful. So
you really don't want to waste your current thoughts by continuing to
create your future from the garbage of the past.
When you blame another, you give your own power away because you're
placing the responsibility for your feelings on someone else. People in
your life may behave in ways that trigger uncomfortable responses in
you. However, they didn't get into your mind and create the buttons
that have been pushed. Taking responsibility for your own feelings and
reactions is mastering your "ability to respond." In other words, you
learn to consciously choose rather than simply react.
Forgiveness is a tricky and confusing concept for many people, but
know that there's a difference between forgiveness and acceptance.
Forgiving someone doesn't mean that you condone their behavior! The act
of forgiveness takes place in your own mind. It really has nothing to
do with the other person. The reality of true forgiveness lies in
setting yourself free from the pain. It's simply an act of releasing
yourself from the negative energy that you've chosen to hold on to.
Also, forgiveness doesn't mean allowing the painful behaviors or
actions of another to continue in your life. Sometimes forgiveness means
letting go: You forgive that person and then you release them. Taking a
stand and setting healthy boundaries is often the most loving thing you
can do — not only for yourself but for the other person as well.
No matter what your reasons are for having bitter, unforgiving
feelings, you can go beyond them. You have a choice. You can choose to
stay stuck and resentful, or you can do yourself a favor by willingly
forgiving what happened in the past; letting it go; and then moving on
to create a joyous, fulfilling life. You have the freedom to make your
life anything you want it to be because you have freedom of choice.
POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS: FORGIVENESS
• THE DOOR TO MY HEART OPENS INWARD. I MOVE THROUGH FORGIVENESS TO LOVE.
• TODAY I LISTEN TO MY FEELINGS, AND I AM GENTLE WITH MYSELF. I KNOW THAT ALL OF MY FEELINGS ARE MY FRIENDS.
• THE PAST IS OVER, SO IT HAS NO POWER NOW. THE THOUGHTS OF THIS MOMENT CREATE MY FUTURE.
• IT IS NO FUN BEING A VICTIM. I REFUSE TO BE HELPLESS ANYMORE. I CLAIM MY OWN POWER.
• I GIVE MYSELF THE GIFT OF FREEDOM FROM THE PAST, AND MOVE WITH JOY INTO THE NOW.
• I GET THE HELP I NEED, WHEN I NEED IT, FROM VARIOUS SOURCES. MY SUPPORT SYSTEM IS STRONG AND LOVING.
• THERE IS NO PROBLEM SO BIG OR SO SMALL THAT IT CANNOT BE SOLVED WITH LOVE.
• I AM READY TO BE HEALED. I AM WILLING TO FORGIVE. ALL IS WELL.
• WHEN I MAKE A MISTAKE, I REALIZE THAT IT IS ONLY PART OF THE LEARNING PROCESS.
• I MOVE BEYOND FORGIVENESS TO UNDERSTANDING, AND I HAVE COMPASSION FOR ALL.
• EACH DAY IS A NEW OPPORTUNITY. YESTERDAY IS OVER AND DONE. TODAY IS THE FIRST DAY OF MY FUTURE.
• I KNOW THAT OLD, NEGATIVE PATTERNS NO LONGER LIMIT ME. I LET THEM GO WITH EASE.
• I AM FORGIVING, LOVING, GENTLE, AND KIND, AND I KNOW THAT LIFE LOVES ME.
• AS I FORGIVE MYSELF, IT BECOMES EASIER TO FORGIVE OTHERS.
• I LOVE AND ACCEPT MY FAMILY MEMBERS EXACTLY AS THEY ARE RIGHT NOW.
This article was excerpted from:
 I Can Do It: How to Use Affirmations to Change Your Life
by Louise L. Hay.
Reprinted with permission of the publisher, Hay House, Inc. ©2004. www.hayhouse.com
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About the Author
LOUISE L. HAY is a metaphysical lecturer and teacher and the best selling author of numerous books , including You Can Heal Your Life and Empowering Women. Her works have been translated into 26 different languages in 35
countries throughout the world. Louise is the founder and
chairman of Hay House, Inc., a publishing company that disseminates
books, audios, and videos that contribute to the healing of the planet.
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