Dear
John Letter
Dear
John,
I have
been seriously looking back upon our relationship and
getting very clear on what I need and desire out of a
relationship.
The
conclusion I have come to is that we are too different
in both our personality and our desired lifestyles to be
able to successfully live together with joy, bliss, good
communication, and interaction.
This is
not about you or about me "winning or losing",
or about one of us being wrong -- it is about two ways
of being... which do not fulfill each other, or go
together. Though I had been open to having you visit
with the thought that possibly we could 'try' again,
after thinking about it a lot, I realize that it is not
a good idea. I am very clear that we are not the 'right'
people for each other at this time in our lives.
Please
forgive yourself, and me, for any 'mistakes' we made
along the way... and remember that we both have grown
immensely through being together... but the time has
come to move on.
So
basically what I am saying is that I would like to
'cancel' my invitation for you to visit. I feel at this
time, that I need to move on with my life, and having
you come and visit would not serve any positive purpose.
You need to accept that this relationship is over and
open yourself up to receiving the blessings of the
universe...
I think
we both need to let go of the past, be grateful for what
we had for a time, learn from our experiences, and move
on from there.
Dearest
John, we have been through a lot together... I have a
learned a lot about myself, as you have learnt a lot
about yourself. At this point, we are both ready to
graduate to the next level in a relationship... What we
have learned, whether while we were together, or whether
after, through looking back on how we 'operated'
together, will serve us in our future
relationships.
It has
been my experience, that all relationships that end are
simply opening the door to another level of joy, and a
better relationship built on what we have learnt in the
past. So I know and trust that there is someone out
there who will support you in your growth while loving
you exactly the way you are... which is something that
we were not doing for each other. I constantly judged
and criticized you, in the same manner that you judged
and criticized me... Out there is the perfect person for
you that will love you and not find a single thing to
criticize about you in the same way that you will not
find a single thing to criticize about them... You will
accept her as she is, even while seeing that she is not
"perfect".
Do not
see this as losing something, but rather as having
gained knowledge and wisdom... Everything that we have learned from being together, as well as from us being
separated, we will be able to put in practice in our
next relationship to avoid the traps that we got
into.
EVERYTHING
ALWAYS WORKS OUT FOR THE BEST, and this is no exception.
Trust in yourself, trust in the Universe, trust in the
power of Love that rules our lives. Please don't get
into feeling sorry for yourself and wanting to 'end it
all'. Rather, thank God for the learning experience, and
ask for the openness to recognize the blessings in your
life. They are there... open yourself up to being you,
accepting yourself completely without judgment, and
loving yourself unconditionally.
I wish
you joy, I wish you happiness, I wish you heaven on
earth. Please trust in yourself and the Universe enough
to take some deep breaths, and start looking to find and
create joy in your life. It is there... simply step out
and claim it.
Blessings
to you... Be the light!
 Recommended
book:
Soulmates:
Following Inner Guidance to the Relationship of Your Dreams
by Carolyn Godschild Miller.
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About The
Author
The author of this article wishes to
remain anonymous to protect the privacy of "John". This is an
actual letter that was sent to her ex-husband when he was hoping to
"try again" after their having been married for 10 years and
separated for a few months. Both the author and "John" are now
happily married again to another "soulmate".
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