What Do You Want?
by Marie T. Russell
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do you want? This is a question that is asked of us throughout our lives.
"What do you want?" We ask this question of babies when they are
crying and we can't figure out if they're hungry, wet, or what? What do you
want? We ask this question of the child who is seeking our attention. We ask
this of a student or young adult trying to decide on a career. We ask this of
ourselves concerning our vacation plans. We ask this standing in front of a
smorgasbord. We ask this question when we need to make a decision, a choice.
Yet, it is a question that we sometimes avoid answering and simply go with
whatever seems easier or less painful at the moment. Sometimes we answer that
question with a short-term view of what we want in our life, and sometimes we
answer it with a long-term goal in mind.
What do you want?
Since we are the key players in creating the scenarios for
our life, it is a question that we need to ask ourselves more often -- actually,
maybe we need to ask ourselves this question constantly. Think about it. If you are in an unpleasant situation, by asking yourself
what you want, your course of action will become clear -- or you will at least
have an idea of which direction to head for. And if you are in a confusing
situation, asking yourself what you want will help guide your steps.
Let's say you are in a relationship where you are being abused, either
physically or emotionally. What do you want? If you do not want this type of
relationship, then asking yourself what you want is the first step in choosing
how to handle the situation. What do you want? Do you want happiness? Now you
may say that's a stupid question. Everyone wants happiness. Yet, if that is so,
then why don't we all have it? Obviously, some of us (at least some of the time)
are making choices that do not result in happiness.
The important thing for us to realize is that asking what we want is only the first
step. The next step involves taking action. If you want a new job, in most cases
to get that job you need to take action. Read the want ads, talk to people who
might know about job openings, fill in job applications, get some more training,
etc. All of these are action steps. To create or attract what you want, in this
case a new job, you have to do something. You have to take action.
It seems that one of the basic desires of people is to be happy. Everyone
wants to be happy -- whatever that means for them. The outward manifestation of
happiness can look very different for someone living in hunger and someone
living in opulence; for someone in a war-torn country and someone watching war
on TV; for someone in a battered relationship and for someone living alone. We
all have our own vision of happiness, just as we have our own vision of peace.
Yet, whatever our vision, we all need to "do something" to make our
vision, our dream, come true.
I have a vision of peace on earth -- starting first with inner peace, and
moving out to include everyone. Many of us have this vision. We have put bumper
stickers on our car that say "Visualize World Peace". We wear t-shirts
that say "Give Peace a Chance". We may "remove ourselves"
from the world because we want inner peace.
This is not a new vision. This is not a new dream. However, as in each era,
in each generation, in each life, it is a vision that needs action - that needs
commitment -- that needs to be put into practice. However, as Mother Teresa once
replied when asked why she did not participate in anti-war demonstrations in the
60s, "I'll never go to an anti-war demonstration, but as soon as you have a
pro-peace rally, I'll be there."
We need to ask ourselves: what do we want? Do we want peace? Do we want peace
inside our own beings, inside our country, and all over the world? If the answer
to this is yes, then we need to take action. We need, of course, to "start
at home". We need to stop fighting within our own self -- we need to start
accepting and loving our own self. Then we need to create peace with our family
members, our co-workers, our neighbors. Now, creating peace does not mean you
have to be lovey-dovey with everyone. It simply means that you respect their
right to be -- whether they choose to be grumpy, or vote for a different
political party, or eat and dress differently than you do.
When you choose peace, you stop taking actions (and saying things) that
create war (or discord). You think before you speak. You choose love over anger, over
grudges, over revenge. You learn to forgive your mate, your co-worker, your
neighbor. You remember that they too are human and that they make mistakes --
that in their own quest for happiness they may make choices that you don't
understand, or even that you are certain cannot bring them happiness, yet you
grant them the right to make their own choices.
We all have our own choices to make. In our own personal lives we have many
decisions to make that affect not only ourselves but the people around us. Our
choices ultimately affect the whole world in the same way that a small pebble thrown in a pond creates ripples throughout the whole pond.
Most of us reading this live in affluent countries. After all, this article
is published on the Internet, so in order to read it you have to be sitting in
front of a computer, or someone who was sitting in front of a computer printed
it out for you. We are rich -- we have a solid roof over our heads, we have
some form of income, we have food sources all around us - supermarkets abound.
Thus our obsession with security needs to move from the food and shelter arena,
into the need for a secure world - one which is at peace.
I am of the same belief as Mother Teresa. One does not fight war with war.
One creates peace by "waging peace". Both in our own personal lives
and in the global arena.
What do you want? Do you want peace, both within and without? If our answer
is yes then we need to take action. We need to start
living peace, at home, at work, and in our world. Many of us feel powerless. We
have no control over "world peace". Yet that is far from true. Others
think that they can meditate us all into world peace. While this of course is
very important, since it is a manifestation of "as above, so below",
we need to remember that we are physical as well as spiritual beings.
We need to
work at creating peace, both inner and outer, in the spiritual, mental and
emotional realms. But we also need to create peace, both inner and outer, in the
physical realm. We have to take actions that bring us peace. We have to speak
and live peace. We can't just sit on top of a figurative mountain top, and
simply visualize peace, then come off our mountain, and cuss and curse the
person who cuts us off in traffic -- or the person who seeks to hurt us in some
way.
We need to take actions that will bring us peace. We as a world appear to be headed
towards ongoing war and destruction -- unless we take action. We can no longer be
armchair spectators and watch the world go by. We need to take responsibility
for what is going on in our world. If our country is choosing to go to war, it
is because many of us have sat and said nothing -- at least we have said nothing
where it can make a difference.
Do you really think that if each and every one of us who chooses peace
contacted our elected representatives and told them we want peace, not war, that
they would choose to support war? Remember that, unfortunately, most of our
elected representatives have one basic desire -- to be re-elected. If they were
deluged with phone calls, letters, emails, etc. that said "we will not vote
for you if you support war", they would reconsider their positions.
The United States' motto, in a sense, is "we the people". Well,
what do "we the people" want? We need to let our desires and
aspirations known to the ones who are making decisions in the direction to lead
this country. We need to take action. If we sit back and do nothing, we are
responsible for war (and whatever else our elected representative choose to participate in). The people who sat back and did nothing (and I am one of
them) before and during the Vietnam war are responsible for its taking place. If
we sit back and do nothing about going to war with Iraq -- and whoever else we
decide we need to go into combat with -- we are responsible for all the lives that
are terminated and all the pain and suffering that is caused.
Harsh words? Maybe, but nevertheless true. It is our planet. It is our world.
We are its caretakers. We are its friend. We are its protecting angels.
I saw again the other night one of my favorite (though sad) movies: Pay
It Forward. We need to pay forward all the
blessings we have received. We need to be the angels that we truly are, and help
create world peace --- here and now. Not by using violence, not by spouting
hate, not by forcing peace down anyone's throat -- but by speaking peace, by
living peace, by being peace. By choosing peace.
What do we want? Peace? If our answer is yes, then its time to take action --
peaceful, loving actions that will bring us peace. It is our responsibility to
do so. No one can do it for us. We are creating our own reality -- what will it
be?
We don't have to lose -- we can still create the world we dream of -- one
where equality, peace, love, acceptance, harmony and well-being exist as a real
choice for all. Whatever you can do, do it now. To expand on John F. Kennedy's
famous statement -- "Ask not what the world can do for you, but what you can do
for the world" and take action, now.
To quote 12-year-old Trevor in the movie "Pay It Forward":
"I think some people are too scared... that things could be
different. I guess it's hard for some people who are so used to things the
way they are, even if they're bad, to change... cause, I guess, they kind of
give up. When they do, everybody kind of loses..."
(Editor's Note: Please see our Holistic Politics website at http://holisticpolitics.com
for suggestions of "things you can do" and links to pages to "get involved" and
take action in the goal of attaining peace as a reality.)
Recommended book:
 Choosing Peace: Miracles are Decisions
by Scott P.
Andstadt.
This book consists of 10 chapters, which describe key concepts leading to
deeper and effortless awareness of who we really are.
Info/Order
this book.
 About The Author
Marie
T. Russell is the founder of InnerSelf Magazine (founded 1985). She also
produced and hosted a weekly South Florida radio broadcast, Inner Power, from
1992-1995 which focused on themes such as self-esteem, personal growth, and
well-being. Her articles focus on transformation and reconnecting with our own
inner source of joy and creativity.
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