Emotional
Mastery:
Bringing Emotions Out
of the Dark Ages
by Gail E. Steuart
& Barry
Blumstein
Our understanding of the
Emotional System today is still in the Dark Ages. This has its analogy to the
time when people's understanding of our Solar System was based upon the belief
that the Sun revolved around the Earth, as it certainly appeared that way --
however, just the reverse was true. The problem was, as long as we believed the
Sun went around the Earth, we were limited as to how far we could go in the
Solar System.
We find the same condition
existing today in regard to the Emotional System. Society believes that our
emotional feelings are a result of our experiences in our environment. In
essence: something happened and it made me feel the way I do. This
belief, though it is certainly the way it appears, is just the reverse of how it
really works.
Remember the science
experiment where you connected the two ends of a wire to the terminals of a dry
cell battery? When an electrical charge flowed through the wire, a magnetic
field was created around the wire. This was demonstrated by the pattern of the
iron filings. The nature of any object with a magnetic field around it is to
attract to it over a distance of space another similar object with a magnetic
field around it.
What happens to us as we
embrace an emotional feeling is that it is first received by our brain, which
converts it into electrical energy that flows through our body by means of the
central nervous system. We can often "feel the charge" in our body associated
with the experience of emotions. When this occurs an electromagnetic field is
generated around our body which attracts to us another person who has an
identical electromagnetic field around their body and the same emotional feeling
in their heart.
For example, if we view the
woman who drowned her two children with anger we will then encounter someone,
perhaps while driving, who will express their anger towards us. We might think,
"What did I do to deserve that?" Now we know. The emotional feeling came first,
and it resulted in a corresponding event subsequently occurring in our
environment!
Because society has the
understanding of this relationship backwards, we have not been able to make much
progress in the emotional area. Let's face it, although this age reflects great
advancements in technology, the feelings in the hearts of men and women are
still plagued by darkness.
Believing that something or
someone made us feel the way we do gives rise to the concept of
victimization. To see self as a victim places the responsibility for our
feelings on someone or something other than self. The real problem with this
view is that if we are not responsible for having created our feelings, we
are also unable to change those feelings and create new and different
ones.
This dilemma we face
creates quite a struggle in life. Although we may externally struggle with
different circumstances and situations, the emotional feelings associated with
them are always the same -- frustration, resentment, anger, etc., etc., etc. It
is as if we have fallen into quicksand, gotten stuck, and the only way we know
to extricate ourselves is to struggle. What we find is that the more we struggle
to get out, the deeper in we sink.
This predicament is
exemplified by compulsive behavior. The things we do that we desire to no longer
do constitute our compulsive behavior. The characteristic of compulsive behavior
is that it is reactive in nature. In other words, we have done it before we are
consciously aware that we have done it. Since we do not like it, we get down on
ourselves for having done it again. This only serves to feed and increase the
intensity of what we did not like, so that it becomes a stronger force within
us, compelling us even more to do it the next time. Then we get down on
ourselves even more -- feeding more energy into it so that it comes back
stronger the next time… The more we struggle to get out, the deeper in we
sink.
To state a simple rule:
there is an inverse relationship between struggling with a problem and
understanding the problem. Understanding how the emotional system really works
allows the resolution of problems without struggle. This understanding is the
key to unlocking the emotional doorway to enter into the Kingdom of Heavenly
Feelings within us, the creation of happiness in life, that we deserve to
experience.
©1999 Gail E. Steuart & Barry
Blumstein
Recommended book:
The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book
by Travis Bradberry, Jean Greaves, and Patrick Lencioni.
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About The
Author
Gail E. Steuart and Barry Blumstein are
a married couple living in Tucson, Arizona. Their training program originated as
a teaching received in a near-death experience in 1969. It was fifteen years in
the development stage, and has been presented in Tucson and nationally since
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