Is Your Home Your Ally?
by Denise
Linn
 Your
home can be your greatest ally in helping you to achieve your potential. This is
true because your home is not only a reflection of you, but in its deepest
sense, it also has the power to mold you and shape your future. When you
implement changes in your home, you will notice that often your life is also
transformed: instantly, dramatically, and permanently.
Your home fulfils many functions
in your life. On the physical plane, it provides shelter from the elements and
offers you protection and privacy. Beyond this, it is also a place where you can
relax and be yourself. It can serve as a canvas for your self-expression. Your
dwelling is also an outward expression of your inner being, and on a very
profound level it is also a place where you can grow spiritually.
In the deepest sense, your
personal space is a sharply accurate mirror of your subconscious desires, hopes,
fears, and dreams. It reveals your beliefs and decisions about yourself and the
world. It is a reflection of your identity.
A mirror of
yourself
You cannot help but implant your
identity on your home. Every object you place in it expresses some inner aspect
of yourself. As you mature, your development is mirrored in the choices you make
in your environment. The style of your home, your possessions, and the colours
you like all reflect your inner being. The Swiss psychoanalyst Carl Jung said
that everything in the unconscious seeks an outward manifestation. This
principle explains why we continually project our subconscious beliefs and
feelings onto our home.
When you want to find out what
someone is like, all you need to do is look around his or her home. The spindly
teenage boy who plasters his bedroom walls with images of Arnold Schwarzenegger
and Sylvester Stallone is subconsciously saying, 'I want to look like a body
builder'. The data processor who decorates her home with photos of unspoilt
wilderness, carvings from Africa, and an animal print duvet cover on her bed
dreams of having some adventure in her life. A house with natural fabrics,
hand-carved wooden toys strewn on the floor, and biodegradable laundry soap on
the shelf speaks of a belief in living naturally and organically. If you want to
discover your subconscious dreams, fears, and beliefs, just look around your own
home. You will find them represented in every nook and cranny.
Our homes also chronicle our
personal history. Our past experiences form a framework that gives structure and
context to our lives. We use the past to define ourselves. Our history is
carried into the present through the symbols with which we surround ourselves.
Our past is displayed in the photos on our walls and in the objects we treasure.
The teapot from your great aunt, the baby blanket from your childhood, and the
silver napkin rings from your mother are all physical relics embedded with
memories. They all say something about the way you define yourself, based on
your interpretation of the past.
An anchor to the
earth
Your home can serve as an anchor
to the earth and to your roots. Ken Colbung (Nundjan Djiridjaken) the senior
male clan leader of the Australian Bibulmum Aboriginal tribe, spoke to me of how
important this connection between people and their land can be. He said,
'Western man is connected materially to the land, but we are connected
spiritually to land. It's important that we continue to secure our connection to
the land because it is our spiritual embodiment.' Your home is the connecting
point between heaven and earth. It is the place of your centre, your axis -- it
connects you to the land.
A template for spiritual
growth
The soul is always yearning to
expand and grow. This is the reason why we are subconsciously drawn to home
environments that can give us what we need at a particular point in time. The
homes we choose often provide what we most need to progress on our journey
towards wholeness. Some of these environments may seem to lack harmony or even
have unpleasant aspects, but they always offer us an opportunity to
grow.
Just as we are drawn to
individuals and experiences that contribute to our spiritual growth, so too we
may seek environments that can help us to learn the lessons that we need in
life. The Dalai Lama once remarked that you don't learn tolerance from your
friends. What this means is that it is sometimes the people you find the most
disagreeable who have the most to teach you. This is true with our homes as
well.
Your soul is drawn to what it
needs. In traditional feng shui, a home at the top of the mountain is usually
considered bad feng shui because it is too exposed. The bottom of a valley is
also inauspicious feng shui because it can be too cloistered and constricted.
However, living on top of a mountain may suit your soul because the vast open
expanses make you feel more expansive . . . and this is what your soul needs.
And other people, living down in the valley, may find this environment perfectly
meets their requirements for seclusion: its constrictions might help them to
focus their otherwise somewhat frenetic energy.
There arc no wrong homes. Each
home offers you unique opportunities for spiritual growth. The so-called feng
shui imperfections of your home may well be exactly what you need for polishing
the rough edges of your soul. For example, a man I once knew lived in a rented
home that had a very low entrance door. This is usually considered bad feng
shui. Henry was a tall man, and every time he entered his house he had to
incline his head. Sometimes he would be in a hurry and forget to do this. He
would then hit his head on the door lintel which made him angry. Sometimes he
yelled at the door. Occasionally he banged his fists on it. One day he came
home, looked thoughtfully at the door lintel, humbly bent his head and walked
in. It was a moment of truth, a moment that changed his life.
Henry was often in confrontational
situations. Many people found him arrogant, because he was always trying to
prove that his point of view was right. The instant he bent his head at his
threshold, he was filled with an indescribable peace. In that moment, he
realised that he could navigate around the obstacles in his life. Afterwards,
whenever Henry walked through the front doorway, he bent his head in humility
saying to himself, 'I accept my life with love and compassion', and he found
more harmony unfolding in his life.
Sometimes problems encountered in
feng shui bring to mind the classic question about the chicken and the egg.
Which came first? Do we subconsciously choose homes that contain metaphors for
the issues that we need to work on? Or do we experience blockages in our fife
because of the bad feng shui of the home? Although the answer is probably some
of each, I generally feel that we subconsciously choose homes because they have
something to teach us. On a soul level, there are no bad homes. Every home is
filled with lessons and opportunities for spiritual growth.
Sometimes the soul is drawn to a
house because it has energy that will help activate hidden potential. Shortly
after my husband and I were married, we moved into a ramshackle little house by
the sea. We did not have much money, so I decorated our home with things found
in thrift stores and with treasures washed up by the sea. I framed paintings
with driftwood, and placed on the windowsill pieces of glass from the shore that
looked lovely in the afternoon sun. Our shabby little house began to glow,
igniting an incredible creativity within me unlike anything I had ever
experienced before. Without the limitations of our income and this tiny home, I
might never have discovered this side of myself.
What is home to
you?
To gain clarity about your home,
you must first look at what 'home' means to you. The hidden symbols that you
discover within your four walls can be decoded to reveal your overall beliefs
about what a home is. This will be slightly different for each
person.
For many people their home is the
place where they sleep every night. Other people may think of home as the place
where they were born and grew up, even if they have lived elsewhere for many
years. For many native people, home is their ancestral village or the place
where their ancestors are buried.
I have spent quite a bit of time
in Scandinavia. Many people in these northern countries live in city apartments
for most of the year, but for a month or more during the summer they go to a
cottage by a lake. Often this will be the place they call home. Their definition
of home is not determined by the amount of time they spend there, but the amount
of happiness they feel in a place.
Some people's sense of home will
be linked to a certain kind of geography, such as the moors of Scotland, the
lakes of Sweden, the mountains of Switzerland, or the great plains in the middle
of the United States. Whenever these individuals find themselves in this kind of
terrain, they feel at home. It is useful to ask yourself, 'Where do I feel at
home?' When you have discovered just what the word home means to you, then you
can begin to create the kind of environment that has this sort of energy in
it.
I once had a feng shui client,
named John, who was a perfect example of how this process can work. When he
considered what the idea of home meant to him, John realized that he felt most
at home whenever he was in the mountains. I suggested that he place paintings
and photos of mountains within his home and office to help create the feeling of
mountains in his space. He reported that after doing this he felt much more at
home with himself and his life.
For some people, ideas of home can
be tied to the traditions, heritage or religion of a particular culture. They
feel at home when they are surrounded by things that symbolize these
associations for them. For example, one of my clients found that he felt at home
in environments filled with things from the Japanese culture. He wasn't Asian
and hadn't grown up in an Asian culture, but none the less he found that
including Japanese objects in his home filled him with a great sense of peace
and contentment. Another client found that she felt truly at home among relics
and icons reflecting Spanish Catholicism. She said that she felt serene after
placing antique carved statues of Jesus and various saints around her
home.
These yearnings to be surrounded
by objects from a particular culture may be the product of early childhood
experiences, ancestral memories, the collective unconscious, symbolic
associations, or even former-life memories. Discovering the reason for the
attraction is not always important. What does matter, however, is honoring the
preferences of the soul. Something that may seem trivial, illogical, or even
somewhat silly to the conscious mind often fills a deep need on an unconscious
level. Listen to the promptings of your soul. It will lead you
home.
 This article is excerpted from:
Feng Shui for the Soul: How to create a harmonious environment
that will nurture and sustain you, © 1999, by Denise Linn.
Reprinted
with permission of the publisher, Hay House, Inc. www.hayhouse.com.
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About The
Author
Denise Linn is an international lecturer,
healer, and author at the forefront of the Feng Shui movement in the U.S.,.
Europe, and Australia. She is the acknowledged pioneer of the Space Clearing
movement that has gained so much popularity throughout the world. Her
bestselling book, Sacred Space, has been translated into 12 languages.
She is the originator of the groundbreaking Interior Alignment™ Feng Shui and
Space Clearing system, and founder of the Interior Alignment™ Institute, which
offers a professional certification course and weekend workshops. Visit her
website at http://www.qed-productions.com/dlindex.htm
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