Feng Shui for Romance
by Angi Ma Wong
 Within
a few minutes of our meeting at a Chinese New Year celebration, I had the
attractive banker in the expensive suit pegged as a type-A personality -- intelligent,
focused, aggressive . . . a typical woman warrior.
"Many men come in and out of my life," she confided during our
consultation, "but I quickly get bored with them. However, I'm in my 30s,
and I want to marry and settle down. Give me one quick tip on how I can
achieve this."
As she spoke, she showed me around her bachelorette bedroom, and I noticed
the location of the doorway.
"Tell you what," I said, "I'll give you two. Your bedroom
door in your marriage area represents the men in your life coming in and out.
Keep your bedroom door closed all the time, except when you're using it, and
tie two red ribbons on the inside doorknob."
Two years later, I bumped into the banker again.
"I've been meaning to contact you all this time!" she said.
"Within a month of doing what you suggested, I met the man I married, and
we have a baby girl!"
***
Love is the stuff of dreams, drama, and dread, as well as agony and ecstasy.
And yet who among us can live without it? Scientific research has shown that
both plants and people perish without attention and care. The pages that follow
will concentrate on providing tips on attracting many different kinds of
relationships -- not just the romantic or passionate kinds. After all, we
experience the love of our families long before that of friends, lovers, mates,
or partners. Love blossoms from the seeds of harmony, kindness, communication,
commitment, respect, affection, and growth.
Feng shui must be practiced in concert with your spiritual, emotional,
physical, and intellectual development. Just like the legs on a table, all of
these aspects of your well-being contribute to your being centered or grounded.
And without your active involvement in creating your own luck, your efforts and
intentions will be weakened and less successful.
Five Components of Destiny
In Chinese thought, feng shui is only one of the five components that make up
our destinies. The other four are fate, luck, charity, and education.
Fate represents all the circumstances of our birth: where, when, which
family, birth order, ethnicity, socioeconomic circumstances, and so on. Luck
consists of three different kinds: man-made, pure, and heaven. Then comes feng
shui, the ancient Chinese environment system of aligning human energies with
that of nature and the universe. Fourth is charity and philanthropy: doing good
deeds and creating good karma through one's thoughts and actions. Last is
education and self-development, as we should always be stretching our minds,
bodies, and spirits to higher levels.
How to Use Feng Shui to Attract Love
Notice that good relationships can be achieved by stimulating several areas
in each room, not just the romance areas. After all, you wouldn't want to
undermine your efforts by loading up the SW (Compass) or right rear (Black Sect)
zones to the exclusion of other aspects. I mainly focus on the SW, NW, E, NW,
and W areas. But, above all else, keep balance and moderation in mind.
Keep in mind both the generative and destructive relationships of the
elements so that what you do supports and doesn't destroy your feng shui
efforts. For example, knowing that in the Compass School, SW is the prime
direction for activating romance, love, and marriage, you should then avoid
using any wood here because wood destroys the element of earth (SW.)
As you search for romance, keep in mind that feng shui won't do the job all
by itself. Before you spend time, money, and energy on looking for that ideal
romantic partner, take a good look at yourself. Begin by making (or
remaking) yourself into the kind of person that you'd like to have a
relationship with -- only then can you develop into a person someone else would
love, for feng shui is as much about changing the person inside as it is
about changing their environment outside.
Remember to practice feng shui with a pure heart and strong intentions.
Gladly use this wonderful ancient knowledge to your advantage and personal
enrichment, but don't practice it to harm anyone. This means that it's
acceptable to strengthen your position in someone else's life with feng shui,
but to use it to eliminate your competition for that person's affections
creates bad karma and will surely backfire.
3 Golden Rules of the Feng Shui Lady
1. If it isn't broken, don't fix it. Ask yourself if you're happy,
healthy, and prosperous: If the answers are yes, yes, and yes, then only
fine-tune or make minor changes in your life. You don't want to make major
overhauls and upset the blessings and good things you already have.
2. If you don't see it, it isn't there. Feng shui is a mental, practical,
metaphysical, and spiritual process that uses a range of strategies, including
assessment, addition, camouflage, removal, deflection, transformation, and
protection.
3. Everything is fixable. Feng shui offers hope, empowerment, and a marvelous
opportunity for taking charge and being proactive to change your life.
Single Woman's Bedroom
- Do decorate with peach in your bedroom if you're a single woman, for
this is the color that attracts a good man.
- Don't design your bedroom so that it's overly feminine if you want to
attract a man into your life.
- Do add images of men and/or couples to your walls if you're a single
woman.
- Don't illuminate the NW corner of any room, as this may attract
untrustworthy men into your life.
- Do decorate with images of the Chinese phoenix in your bedroom if you're
a single woman. This is one of the traditional symbols for marriage.
- Do use pink or peach-colored candles in the SW area of your bedroom if you're
a single woman. The fire element will give your romance and relationship
area a boost.
Couple's Bedroom
- Do be mindful that your bedroom is the most intimate place for couples,
including their thoughts and dreams.
- Do teach your children and their friends to respect the privacy of your
bedroom and to knock and wait for permission to enter.
- Don't allow your children to enter your bedroom without your permission.
 This
article is excerpted from:
FENG SHUI DOs & TABOOs for LOVE
by
Angi Ma Wong.
Reprinted with permission of the publisher, Hay House Inc. http://www.hayhouse.com
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About the Author
Angi
Ma Wong, one of America's most popular and prolific feng shui
practitioner/authors, is an award-winning businesswoman and bestselling author.
She has been featured in Time, USA Today, on CBS Sunday Morning, and Regis &
Kelly and has been a guest on Oprah. Angi Ma Wong is also the author of Feng
Shui: Arranging Your Home to Change Your Life, Feng Shui Garden Design Kit, and
Feng Shui Dos & Taboos.
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