 Approval Not Needed
by J. Donald Walters
To
be sincere with oneself means not to let his happiness depend on the approval of
others. In the context of the quest for bliss, opinions simply do not matter.
The only important thing is how to deepen that bliss, and how to spurn any
action that obscures it. The judgments of most people are unreliable. Usually
they are wrong, because influenced by delusion!
There is a story about a peasant who set out from home, accompanied by his
young son, to sell a donkey at a fair. Because he hoped to get the best possible
price for the beast, he and the boy walked. The donkey, meanwhile, trotted
merrily along, happy for a change to be without any burden to carry.
They'd gone a little distance when they met another group coming the other
way. One person in this group burst out laughing. "Just look at that stalwart
animal," he cried, "trotting along while those two silly bumpkins trudge wearily
at its side. Why don't they ride it?"
The peasant overheard this comment, and thought, "Well, I suppose it does
look a bit strange!" He climbed up onto the donkey's back, accordingly, leaving
his son to go on by foot.
Some distance further they passed another group, from which a voice rose in
outraged protest. "What arrogance!" it cried. "See that grand fellow, seated
proudly astride his donkey while his poor child goes limping along in the dust!"
The peasant overheard this comment also, and thought, "Well, I don't want
people thinking me arrogant!" Down he got, therefore, and placed his child on
the donkey's back instead.
They passed a third group. One person in it covered his mouth as if to show
tact, though he was speaking quite loudly enough to be heard outside the group.
"What a comedy!" he guffawed. "See that little fellow, in the glory of his
youth, ensconced there like a king while his poor old dad hobbles along, trying
his best to keep up! Imagine the paucity of discipline in that
household!"
Well, the peasant didn't know the meaning of "paucity," but he got the
general idea. "I don't want to be considered a nobody in my own home!" he
thought. Hastily, therefore, he clambered up behind his son. And so they
continued, only the donkey now going by foot ? or, more correctly, by hoof.
They passed a fourth group. Suddenly there came a stifled cry of horror, "Oh!
what heartlessness! Such a heavy load on one poor creature's back! How can they
be so unkind to their faithful servant ? yes, their friend! Ah, how painful, to
see such ingratitude!"
At this point the travelers found themselves on a bridge that crossed over a
river. The peasant, reflecting that by now he'd been criticized for every
possible choice he made, dismounted the donkey in disgust, lifted his son down,
and pushed the animal into the water below. And so the two of them returned
home, empty-handed.
The moral of this story is, of course, that one should not care excessively
about others people's opinions. Where the quest is for bliss, especially, one
must decide for himself what course he will follow, then stick to it
unswervingly.
Dear reader, I offer this counsel for you personally. Let others urge you to
follow whatever course they like. Good advice, of course, should always be
heeded. Above all, however, be guided by your own desire for freedom and inner
bliss.
 This
article was excerpted from:
God Is For Everyone
by J. Donald
Walters.
Reprinted with permission of the publisher, Crystal Clarity Publishers. ©2003.
www.crystalclarity.com
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About the Author
J.
Donald Walters (Swami Kriyananda) has been a disciple of Paramhansa Yogananda's
since 1948. He has given thousands of lectures over the years in many countries,
acquainting people with his Guru's teachings. In addition, he has written over
eighty books and edited two books of Yogananda's which have become well known:
The Rubaiyat of Omar Khayyam Explained
and a compilation of sayings of the Master,
The Essence of Self-Realization.
In 1968 Walters founded an intentional community near Nevada City, California,
based on the teachings of Paramhansa Yogananda. The community's name is Ananda.
Since then, Walters has founded five other Ananda communities in four American
states, and one in Italy, where he lives at present.
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