It Is Time To Let Go
by May Paron
The doctor's young reception asked the asked
the sixtish patient, "Are you on Medicare?". "No, I'm not," he answered. "I'm
still working, and I plan to retire when I'm one hundred and four." She laughed
and asked him to take a seat. He and I were the only people in the waiting room,
so I smiled at the man and said "I liked your answer ... and your spirit."
"Thanks," he replied, "would you like to hear the story behind my statement?"
"I'd love to," I agreed.
His name was John and he worked for a
government agency. John was responsible for approving loan applications for
major home improvements. One day a woman called him and explained: "I need a
loan to convert my heating system to gas, though I really don't mind the coal at
all. It's those darn ashes - lugging them up from the basement all the time. I'm
104 now and I'm just so tired of carrying those ashes!" John was surprised at
this outpouring, and a little skeptical of the woman's age claim, but the
agency's investigation revealed that she was indeed 104 years old. Only now was
she rebelling at the burden she'd borne for so many years.
Looking Deeper
After hearing John's story, I wondered if
there wasn't a broader message here than just the remarkable stamina and
endurance of an extraordinary woman. Picture the ashes as any heavy burden that
one might carry inside for years, unwilling or unable to release feelings of
anger, resentment, envy, or any other negative connection to the past. Happily,
we don't have to shoulder this emotional load until we're 104, or even for
another day, or even another moment.
By choosing to let go of the past, we can
sweep out all the ashes that weigh us down and subtly affect every aspect of our
health, our relationships, and our peace of mind.
My friend Jean was divorced after a
thirty-year marriage that produced three daughters, one son and eight
grandchildren. Because she had literally raised them single-handedly, Jean was
hurt and angry that the children didn't take her part after the divorce. For
months she refused to attend any family celebration to which Jim was also
invited. When I reasoned that her children's perception of the relationship with
and between the parents was probably altogether different from hers, she clung
to the belief that she was right.
One day Jean called in tears. "Saturday is my
grand-daughter's birthday, and I really want to be with her, but I can't bring
myself to face my former husband." "Jim isn't the problem," I said gently, "it's
false pride. Instead of holding on to the painful past, which is over and done,
let the feelings go and get on with your life. You're depriving yourself of the
joy of sharing in these important occasions, while Jim feels free to experience
them. Tell me, would you rather be right, or be happy?"
That must have done the trick because when
Saturday arrived, Jean appeared at her daughter's home bearing her famous
chocolate-chip cookies and a beautiful birthday cake.
Letting Go!
How great it feels to let go! How energizing!
And the more we practice the art of letting go of all negativity, the better
able we become to devote our thoughts, our time, and our energy to living joy
fully in the present, whatever age we happen to be.
Recommended
book:
The Forgiveness Formula:
How to Let Go of Your Pain and Move On with Life
by Kathleen Griffin.
For more
info or to order this book.
About The Author
May Paron is a writer, ordained
minister and Doctor of Metaphysical Science whose focus is on health and hearing
through spiritual psychology. She can be reached at: 800 NE 195 S North Miami,
FL 33179.
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