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by Carl Alasko, Ph.D. Blame is a series of actions and reactions. They all work together to generate the Blame Syndrome. The three parts are: The Blame Attack (the initial criticism — no matter how minor); The Emotional Impact (negative feelings caused by being blamed); The Reactive Response (blame is fired back). Identifying the behavior is the first step.

by Rev. Daniel Chesbro.

Everyone has experienced an event that they’re sure was terrible. Then, when you think about it ten years later, you realize that if that hadn’t happened, you wouldn’t be here right now enjoying life. So how could that have been...

by Alan Seale.

We all have times in our life where we find ourselves caught in the middle of dramas or 'impossible' situations. Our first tendency mighty be to find who's to blame and/or how to fix it. However, Alan Seale suggests: "This situation has happened for a reason. It wants to tell us something — to help us clearly recognize what is not working or what wants to change or heal. The drama is a wake-up call..."

by Alan Cohen.

As Dee and I took our bulkhead seats on our flight home to Hawaii, we noticed a young newlywed couple seeking their seats in the row across the aisle from us. They were on their honeymoon. When they realized that they were assigned seats apart from each other, their countenance dropped like a five-year-old whose ice cream cone...

by Lynn Woodland.

The more we bristle at the idea of self-responsibility, the more likely it is that we were taught at an early age to feel shame. Blame and shame go hand in hand, one giving rise to the other. They both have to do with finding fault, pointing a finger of judgment, and defining something or someone as “wrong.” For those of us who’ve been taught to feel shame, it’s...

by John Ptacek.

Believing is as automatic as walking or talking or sneezing, and about as noteworthy. There was a time when I considered my beliefs to be something more than just an assemblage of thoughts. I thought they were me. Deprived of our-ists and -isms, would we behave differently than we do now? Who would we be without our beliefs?

by Marie T. Russell.

This year for the first time, I have planted zucchini in my garden. At first I thought people had  exaggerated... But now I have discovered something. You may check your garden in the afternoon and see some small...

by Deborah King.

Often, our most important beliefs are unconscious. Over 90 percent of those that we currently hold we took on as kids from our parents or caregivers, school, and culture. These views run the greater part of our lives and determine if we’re going to be...

by Pema Chödrön.

Suppose there were a place we could go to learn the art of peace, a sort of boot camp for spiritual warriors. Instead of spending hours and hours disciplining ourselves to defeat the enemy, we could spend hours and hours dissolving the causes of war.