Relationships

Loving Your Inner Child: A Secret of True Happiness

by Barry Vissell. No one gets through childhood without some degree of wounding. If we stay blind to these wounds, they have a…
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Co-Sharing: An Alternative to Day Care

by Francesca Cappucci Fordyce. Parents, single or not, might consider co-sharing, i.e. families helping each other out. The…
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When Love Feels Weird: Dysfunctional Becomes Normal?

by Alan Cohen. We can become so used to dysfunctional relationships that when we are finally presented with a healthy one, it…
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Making Marriage Work With Children

by Francesca Cappucci Fordyce. In many marriages, women grow resentful of their husbands when they are expected to work, clean,…
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How To Be Happy! Stop, Think, Send Love & Let It Go!

by Sonia Ricotti. Victor Frankl said, “It’s the last of all human freedoms, the ability to choose.” We can choose to look at…
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How to Be Safe in Relationships? Open Your Heart

by Peter Fairfield. The heart is the organ of happiness! Of course I am talking about more than just the organ itself — I am…
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Is It Ever Too Late for Forgiveness or Gratitude?

by Stan Goldberg, PhD. The pain from the past that people experience often follows them to their deaths. I had been visiting…
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Sadness as a Meditation

by Osho. Sadness can become a very enriching experience. You have to work on it. It is easy to escape from your sadness — and all…
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Asking and Offering: The Art of Spiritual Trading

by Christina Baldwin. As a spiritual practice, when we ask for what we need and offer each other what we can, we enter a dance of…
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Holding a Grudge: Drinking Poison and Expecting the Other Person to Die

by Joyce Vissell. Is there a resentment that lives inside of you? When we first started our counseling practice, a woman came to…
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Intimate Relationships: Settle for Nothing Less Than Complete Honesty and Transparency

by Isha Judd. We all lie. How contradictory it is: we are taught as children that we must always tell the truth, that we…
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How Heavy is your Relationship Baggage?

by Dr. Lisa Love. Though relationships can provide a lot of pleasure and reward, they can also deliver their share of hurt, pain,…
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Choosing to Become a Wise Elder

by Denise Linn. When people lived in small communities and villages, they often felt a sense of connection to the past. There was…
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Where Has All The Parenting Gone: Schools Have Become The Parent?

by Bret Stephenson. School was never designed to replace parents, but that is what has happened. In the past, whether the parents…
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How to Move from Conditional Love to Unconditional Love

by Isha Judd. How can we tell if our intimate relationships are based on need or something deeper? Here I share some common…
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Finding Your Inner Goddess

by Jamie Rose. Take out your journal and write the names of two women you admire. Women who for you embody the word "god­dess."…
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How To Help Kids Have a Good Future

by Sharon Astyk. The best thing we can do is offer our children a good and protected childhood that simultaneously prepares them…
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Embracing Uncertainty -- Even in the Face of Fear

by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. Certainly, in our role as parents, teachers, or care-givers, we watch as our children are shaken up by…
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The Road To Sexual Ecstasy: Awaken The Lover Within

by Margo Anand. In launching yourself into this adventure, your first question is likely to be "Where do I begin?" Many of my…
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Show Affection in Public Too: It's Not Taboo

by Barry Vissell. Women as well as men often receive strong indoctrination against showing love. It’s too often viewed as a sign…
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Community Celebrations and Dancing in the Streets

by Cecile Andrews. Why is joy so important? Because to inspire people to bring about change — to work to create a culture of…
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Exploring The Silence, A Little Bit at a Time

by Richard Mahler. A critical step in the embrace of silence and solitude is setting aside the notion that we have to be "doing…
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Listening to Ourselves

by Rebecca Z. Shafir, M.A. CCC. If we could listen to ourselves as we converse, we would probably be astounded at how often we…
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The Golden Rule in Reverse!

by Sarah McLean. If you find yourself time and again in relationships that make you feel unlovable, then you’re probably short on…
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The Preciousness of Life: Lessons from My Husband’s Near Death Experience

by Joyce Vissell. Several years ago my beloved husband of 40 years came very close to death. Yes, we are very grateful that he…
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“Am I Too Much for You?”

by Joyce Vissell. Do you ever wonder if you’re too much for those you love? Do you ever worry that you will burden them? Do you…
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I Wish I Could Give You the Moon

I Wish I Could Give You the Moon, article by Alan Cohen

A Zen story tells of a man who came home one evening and found a thief tossing his possessions into a sack. In Zen fashion, the homeowner decided to just sit outside the door and meditate. At some point the thief saw the man and dashed out of the house. In the commotion, the homeowner opened his eyes and saw that the thief had dropped a bowl from his sack.

“Wait, you forgot something!” called the homeowner as he picked up the bowl and tried to catch the crook. But the thief was running fast and soon disappeared into the night.

The owner stopped and took a breath. He looked up into the sky and noticed the night was illuminated by a stunning full moon. “I wish I could give you the moon,” he whispered with a sigh.

I Would Give You the Moon, But It's Already Yours

This story makes no sense from a worldly point of view, since most people who discovered a thief would likely be outraged. From a higher vantage point, however, it makes perfect sense. The world as God created it is far more meaningful and valuable than any object we might possess. We already own everything worthwhile. The homeowner in the story sighed because he felt compassion and pity for the thief, who missed the magic of the moon because he was distracted by a few paltry possessions.

We all have possessions and we want to keep them. The question is, do you own your possessions or do they own you? If your possessions bring you joy, they are serving their purpose. If you worry about them, you have missed the moon. No one possesses the moon, yet everyone does. It is a gift for everyone to enjoy. If you are worried about your iPhone, car, or house, stop for a moment and look up. No one can take from you what God has given you. The appreciation of simplicity only increases with maturity.

Seeking Glamour & Attention or Enjoyment of Life?

At this year’s Academy Awards ceremony, best actress Oscar winner Natalie Portman was interviewed as she strolled down the red carpet en route to her win. “Do you enjoy all the glamour and attention?” a reporter asked Natalie. “Actually, my most delicious luxury is getting home, taking off my makeup, and lounging on my couch in sweats,” she replied.

While many of us dream of glamour and some of us actively pursue it, there is an internal reward that runs far deeper than attention or accolades. Your spirit is already bathed in a light brighter than spotlights. Jim Carrey noted, “I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it's not the answer.”

The Gifts Worth Giving Increase When You Give Them

I Wish I Could Give You the Moon, article by Alan CohenIf riches and fame are not the answer, what is? A Course in Miracles tells us that the only gifts worth having are those that increase when you give them. These are the gifts of the spirit, all variations on the theme of love. When you give kindness, compassion, understanding, laughter, or forgiveness, you do not lose anything by giving. To the contrary, both giver and receive gain, and the blessing of the gift expands in your life and the lives of those you touch. You are bringing the eternal to earth and growing it in your experience.

When you give a finite gift such as money or an object, the giver has less and the recipient has more. The Course would say this is not a true gift, since in the process someone lost and someone won. The only true gifts are those in which everyone feels fulfilled.

The Spirit in which the Gift is Given

When you give money or an object, the real question is, “What is the spirit in which the gift is given?” If you are giving with a sense of guilt or obligation or you hold the receiver indebted, no gift has changed hands because the spirit of the transaction is void. If, on the other hand, you give with love, generosity, and delight, and you are happy for the recipient, the gift is real and it enhances the lives of both parties.

In a culture hell-bent on doing, the experience of being is extremely refreshing, even healing. While many people can do, only a small number can be. Yet there is a part of each of us that knows how to be. Metaphorically, while a part of us is gathering stuff in our sack like the thief in the Zen story, another part recognizes the magic of tonight’s moon. Whether you experience the stuff in the sack or the moon depends on where you choose to place your attention.

Valuing Simple Innocent Pleasures

At some point the thrill of seeking gives way to the deep satisfaction of finding. We value innocent pleasures more than contrived ones. Then we understand Leonardo DaVinci’s message: “The greatest sophistication is simplicity.”

Many of us have read books and gone to seminars to practice manifestation. After a while, you become more interested in de-manifestation. Many of us would gladly trade a sack of stuff for the moon. If so, just look up. It’s waiting for you to be full.


Recommended book:

A Daily Dose of Sanity by Alan CohenA Daily Dose of Sanity: A Five-Minute Soul Recharge for Every Day of the Year [Paperback]
by Alan Cohen.

In times of challenge as well as ease, we all need a helping hand to stay on top of our game, make successful decisions, and find peace of mind in the midst of people and events that might distract us. This collection of inspiring, poignant, and humorous real-life stories, coupled with uplifting insights, will show you how to keep your head on straight and your heart open no matter where you are or what you’re doing.

Click here for more info and/or to order this book.


About The Author

Alan CohenAlan Cohen is the author of many inspirational books, including the newly-released Enough Already: The Power of Radical Contentment. Join Alan for in-depth Life Coach Training beginning September 1, 2013, to become a professional life coach or apply coaching skills to your career or life. For more information about this program and Alan's other books and free daily inspirational quotes via email, visit www.alancohen.com, email info@alancohen.com, or phone 1-808-572-0001.

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