You can’t fight your own truth.
Have you ever heard that before? To me, this means that every day when you wake up you need to be honest about how you feel, who you are, and what you want. It doesn’t matter where you are at in your life right now. You need to be 100 percent genuine with yourself in every aspect of your life.
If being completely connected and honest with the way you feel about everything sounds stressful to you, then I’m sorry. Sweeping things under the rug is not allowed.
Fear of Speaking Your Truth
Are you the kind of person who doesn’t want to challenge others when you speak to them? Are you afraid that if you actually spoke your truth — that is, communicated honestly — that your relationship would fall apart? And because of that fear, do you keep things repressed inside? By the time you go to talk to your partner, does so much anger come pouring out that he or she doesn’t even want to be around you anymore?
I’ve done that, and I’m definitely still guilty of it at times. I’ll bottle up something inside, pull back, and take the love away from my mate.
Repression Builds Up Pressure
After a couple of days of doing this, she’ll get really frustrated, and I’ll finally figure out that I’ve got to tell her what I’m feeling. I’m so happy that I’m finally speaking my truth that I blurt it all out — at this point, there’s so much built up that it all just comes flooding out of me. But by then it’s too late.
If I had just been candid from the beginning and not concealed whatever was bugging me, I wouldn’t have felt the need to dump everything on her all at once.
It’s such a powerful thing to be 100 percent honest with yourself. No matter how hard we try, it’s impossible to force a square peg into a round hole, right? We learned that simple lesson in kindergarten. So now as adults, we must stop attempting to be someone we’re not.
Tracking Your Emotions & Learning to Communicate Honestly
I’m a big believer in using a personal journal to help you keep track of your emotions and learn to communicate honestly. Here’s a good way to put your journal to work for you. Every day, take some time to write down how you feel about yourself. Make a note of how well you connected with others, how you felt when your boss yelled at you, and what went through your mind when a potential partner turned you down.
Habitually write everything down as you learn to express yourself sincerely. The sooner you do this, the sooner you’ll touch base with these feelings.
Communicate Honestly with Yourself: Express Your Truths
It’s time you communicated honestly with yourself in every way. So start using your journal to express your truths. Write down how you feel.
After you touch base with your emotions, that’s when you’re going to be able to leave behind the negatives in your life and carry on with the positives. And don’t forget to go as deep as you can — into those intimate places and emotions within you.
©2012 by David Wygant. All Rights Reserved.
Reprinted with permission of the publisher,
Hay House Inc. www.hayhouse.com
This article was adapted with permission from the book:
Naked!: How to Find the Perfect Partner by Revealing Your True Self
by David Wygant.
What dating is all about is finding the person who is the best match for you. The problem is that too many people hide who they really are inside, become frustrated with their partners, and then the relationship ends up on the rocks. In this informative book, dating expert David Wygant will help you conquer your relationship fears and insecurities once and for all and attract the kind of people you want to meet, date, and build long-term relationships with.
About the Author
David Wygant is one of today’s most successful and sought-out dating experts and coaches. For more than 20 years, David has been earning the trust of American men and women looking to transform their love lives. His three-day Group Bootcamps are offered in the largest markets — including New York City, Los Angeles, and Washington D.C. — up to 20 times a year, and his hourly coaching and one-on-one programs are extremely popular. David’s Take Center Stage™ Seminar for business has found widespread application for improving the first-impression skills of business teams, and his Men’s and Women’s Mastery audio series are the most comprehensive home-study resources for dating coaching available anywhere. David Wygant wrote the popular 2005 book: Always Talk to Strangers: 3 Simple Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life. Visit his website: www.DavidWygant.com