Swirling Through The Five Stages of Abandonment

Swirling Through The Five Stages of AbandonmentAbout six months into my heartbreak, I had a rude awakening. I was sitting on my bed pulling up my stockings. A mirrored door was ajar and its reflection caught me off guard. In a flash, I recognized the woman hunched over her feet, glowering at the mirror. It was me, caught in a moment of self-revulsion.

How Clean Eating Can Damage Children's Health

How Clean Eating Can Damage Children's Health"Clean eating” is the perfect buzz term for parents who are faced with supermarket shelves full of baby and toddler food which is high in sugar content and low in nutritional value.But while some clean eating plans are focused on a balanced diet, others are extreme.

The 3 Parts of Relationship Commitment

The 3 Parts of Relationship CommitmentWhat does it mean to be fully committed in a monogamous relationship? The traditional meaning has to do with focusing your romantic energies only upon your partner. You are not committed if you have “one foot outside the door,” meaning you are still available for romantic relationship with another person.

Tender Words About You: You Are Good Enough!

Tender Words About You: You Are Good Enough!When you live with the belief that something about you makes you weak or not good enough, it is difficult to enter into mutual relationships seeking the best for each person. When you do not see your own belovedness and magnificence, it's difficult to think about being a healthy person, much less imagining a mutual relationship...

Being A Parent: The Role of a Lifetime

Being A Parent: The Role of a LifetimeIn the month of June, we celebrate Father’s Day, which provides me another opportunity to reflect on my own role as a parent. Of all my roles—daughter, sister, wife, friend, professor—the most profound for me has been parenthood. It has been my greatest gift...

A Gift For Our Children’s Future: Maybe There's Another Way

A Gift For Our Children’s Future: Maybe There's Another WayI can remember like yesterday sitting at the dinner table as a child with my parents and siblings and feeling like the world was going to end. My parents would openly discuss current events. I thought to myself what will be in this world? How will I be safe? What can the future look like when these terrible things are happening all the time?

How To Make Mothers' Day Special For Mom

How To Make Mothers' Day Special For MomWhether your mother lives in her own home, with you, in a facility, or a long distance from you, there are many things you can do to make Mothers' Day a special day for her. * Plan to spend loving, compassionate, quality time with her. * Engage her in discussions about her past and where she is now in this stage of her life...

How You Can Negotiate Love

How You Can Negotiate LoveIf you're in a relationship and are ready to deal with your conflicts, don't be afraid. You and your partner have the power to share your feelings and needs -- and reach agreement peacefully. Is it possible for you and your partner to resolve smoothly the differences that arise in your relationship?

Why Who Wears The Pants In A Relationship Matters

Why Who Wears The Pants In A Relationship MattersWhen it comes to power in romantic relationships, men are often cast as dominant and women as deferential. But working against this are caricatures of domineering women with their “hen-pecked husbands” and “whipped boyfriends.” The Conversation

Why You Need To Befriend Yourself

Why You Need To Befriend YourselfIt is a paradox that if we cannot open our hearts to ourselves, then we have no foundation for dealing with other people lovingly and compassionately. We've been trained not to ask loving and compassionate questions of ourselves. 

Why Men And Women Lie About Sex

Why Men And Women Lie About SexWhen it comes to reporting the number of sex partners or how often they have sexual intercourse, men and women both lie. While men tend to overreport it, women have a tendency to underreport it.

What To Do When Emotional Triggers Set Us Off

Triggers as Teachers: Staying on Your Recovery PathTriggers are hooks that summon emotional experiences of other times when you were frightened, harmed, and helpless. When you succumb to a trigger, you feel a sense of guilt, shame, and failure as you add another layer of fear, punishment, and helplessness to your original experience...

10 Things Every Child With Autism Wishes You Knew

10 Things Every Child With Autism Wishes You KnewWe are often quick to make judgements on what we perceive to be happening when children behave in a way that draws attention – but when a young person with autism is struggling to cope with the world, the last thing they need is our criticism. The Conversation

Befriending Yourself: You Are Not Your Enemy

Befriending Yourself: You Are Not Your EnemyThe shift from living with attachment to the judgmental mind to living with kindness is perhaps the most important part of our work with the critic. It requires us to embrace all of who we are — the good, the bad, and the ugly. This can require a radical shift in our inner world...

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