Resistance to achieving goals is created by all the blocks you’ve accumulated since childhood. Even though you may consciously feel you want something badly, just below the surface there’s a collection of beliefs, emotions, and programming that directly refuse it.
Everyone has his or her own individual blocks. Each bad memory, everything that scares you, all the doubts that became ingrained as you experienced disappointment, deceit, being let down by someone you trusted, all the unworthiness you felt when someone criticized you, failing at an endeavor you believed in, or not doing well in school—all the negative experiences, beliefs, and observations—add up to resistance.
The Power of the Subconscious Mind
Unfortunately, a large part of how you operate stems from your subconscious mind. You’re usually not aware of these negative blocks, but they strongly influence your behavior. This subconscious resistance may motivate you to make excuses for not applying for a better job, to overspend, to invest in something risky, to procrastinate doing things that could improve your financial picture, and to behave in a million other ways that might be responsible for your not having the level of wealth you’d like. Even when life takes a very positive turn, negative blocks have a much more powerful effect on how you behave and can change your circumstances quickly.
Fear, doubt, guilt, and the like lock into your subconscious. Negative emotions linger as reminders of what to avoid later on.
You may feel excited if a friend shares his plan to start a business and wants you to join him. You go home eager to take the plunge. This is your chance to leave a job that’s going nowhere, and do something you’ve dreamed of doing!
When Fear and Doubt Take Over
But by morning, old memories of your dad failing when he tried to start a business, leaving your family struggling to pay bills, can stop you from doing it. Even if your new opportunity is much better than the business your dad had and chances of the business succeeding are good, the fire you felt initially will probably be doused by negative memories.
Or, you feel revved up when given a big pep talk about how talented you are and why you should pursue opportunities to use your gifts for more rewarding work. That praise feels great and you can’t wait to start. It’s what you always wanted to do. But those feelings can be overshadowed quickly by subconscious memories of being told you’d never amount to anything and shouldn’t bother pursuing your dreams. Doubts and fear of failure can wipe out all those positive feelings, no matter how badly you want to run with all the joy you felt.
Identifying Your Blocks to Success
Your subconscious is 85 percent of your mind and holds all your habits, beliefs, and memories. Bruce Lipton, Ph.D., author of The Biology of Belief, describes it this way:
“The subconscious mind is running programs that are a million times more powerful than the processing abilities of the conscious mind.”
This inner conflict between what people say or think they want and their blocks is what leaves them scratching their heads about why they behave as they do. It makes them wonder why they procrastinate on the very actions that would make them more money, or totally avoid setting goals. Or, they puzzle over why the thought of asking for a raise or increasing their fees or getting paid for talent they give away fills them with fear and anxiety.
These inner blocks are the culprits when brilliant financial experts like CPAs make disastrous choices in their personal finances or when someone rises in success and income only to lose everything.
The Aha! Moment
Jen came to me after hearing me speak and identified herself as a joke of an accountant. She’d done well in school, and her clients thought she was smart about money. Yet she struggled with her own finances and was frustrated and puzzled about why.
During my talk, she thought about how her mother always used to say that women weren’t supposed to be smart about money, and men were intimidated by women who were. It was ironic that she became an accountant, but she realized that in her personal life, she had become the helpless female that her mother had taught her to be. It was a pivotal moment for her, and she was able to clear the block and greatly improve her finances.
Your mind may try to keep your blocks hidden to protect you. It’s your job to uncover them. Once you do, you can start lowering your resistance by clearing the blocks, one by one. Releasing them is truly the key to your freedom and wealth!
©2013, 2014 by Margaret M. Lynch with Daylle Deanna Schwartz, M.S.
Reprinted with permission of the publisher, Jeremy P. Tarcher/Penguin,
a member of Penguin Group (USA). www.us.PenguinGroup.com.
Tapping Into Wealth: How Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Can Help You Clear the Path to Making More Money
by Margaret M. Lynch and Daylle Deanna Schwartz M.S.
About the Authors
Margaret M. Lynch is a success coach and a leading expert in Tapping. She helps people use Tapping to clear emotional blocks to success. Unlike many well-known mind/body practitioners, Margaret Lynch’s foundation is in business. She’s had eighteen-plus years of management and executive sales experience at Fortune 500 companies. Visit her website at http://margaretmlynch.com/
Daylle Deanna Schwartz is an author, speaker, self-empowerment counselor, and music business consultant. She writes "Lessons from a Recovering Doormat" for Beliefnet, as well as a column for The Huffington Post.