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Honesty & Courage
by Carlos Warter, M.D.,
Ph.D.
 You
might think of courage and honesty as lofty ideals, almost impossible to attain.
What happens if, instead, you regard them as everyday virtues that will help you
keep your heart open? To keep your heart open, you must be honest about
everything, even your simplest experiences. Then you see clearly how, where,
when, and why you are tempted to close it.
Here is a technique that you
might find useful for at least the rest of your life. Begin to notice how you
dissociate from your experience. Are there certain patterns that trigger your
desire to turn away? What are they? Before you turn away from the present
moment, what kinds of feelings do you have? Fear, defensiveness, self-criticism,
resentment, hurt, helplessness, doubt? When you feel like closing your heart,
what do you tell yourself?
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Unfamiliar situations can be
real trigger-points for seeing how you shut down. For example, as a child, one
of John's favorite activities was playing the piano. But because his brother was
far more talented, John stopped his piano lessons after only a few years. Now,
30 years later, he has begun to take lessons again. As he and his teacher
Eleanor reviewed "Fur Elise" -- a song that John had been playing from memory
for 30 years -- he realized that he couldn't hear Eleanor's comments,
evaluation, or instruction.
What seemed to be blocking his
hearing was a big "I know" in his head. The "I know" meant to John that whatever
Eleanor was saying was not of importance to him, because he already knew it.
This incident triggered John's curiosity. Since then, he's begun to notice that
there are many times when that "I know" stands between him and what another
person is saying. When he allows it, it keeps him from being present.
Courage is key in going beyond
self-deception. You may think of courage as being without fear, but in fact,
courage is the willingness to know fear inside and out. You may think of it as
blustering and macho, but in fact, courage is gentle, almost tender.
From childhood on, we seek
comfort in story lines, temporary identities, and other habitual ways of
manipulating the world around us to suit our view. As we open our hearts, our
awareness and presence begin to erode some of these old patterns. Learning to
dwell in openness may bring us face-to-face with energy that we cannot pretend
to control or manipulate. Through awareness, we discover that reality is quite
different from our habitual invention of it. Fear arises, and we're tempted to
shut down.
Seize the moment when you want
to close your heart; this is a ripe opportunity to become intimate with all the
ways you deceive yourself. It's an adventure in self-discovery. The "success" of
your adventure depends on telling yourself the truth about who you are, what you
feel, what you want, and what you fear. If you lie to yourself about these
things, a cloud of confusion will perpetually dim your light.
 This
article was excerpted by permission from Carlos Warter's book
Pathways to the Soul, copyright 2000, published by Hay House Inc.
www.hayhouse.com.
Info/Order this book.
About The Author
Carlos Warter M.D., Ph.D. is a medical
doctor, transpersonal spiritual psychiatrist, lecturer, and pioneer in the field
of consciousness raising and alternative healing. He is the author of
Soul Remembers and
Who Do You Think You Are? The Healing Power of Your Sacred Self. Born in
Chile, Dr. Warter has been awarded the United Nations Peace Messenger and the
Pax Mundi awards for his humanitarian efforts. He presents keynote speeches,
workshops, and seminars both in the U.S. and throughout the world. His website
is at www.doctorcarlos.com.
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